Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’un
“Surely we belong to God and to Him we return” — Holy Qur’an, 2:156
“Life is a great and noble calling, not a mean and grovelling thing to be shuffled through as best as we can but a lofty and exalted destiny.” — Mawlana Sultan Mahomed Shah, His Highness the Aga Khan III (1877-1957), 48th Imam of the Shia Imami Ismaili Muslims.
By RASHIDA TEJANI
with MALIK MERCHANT
For many many months, my sister Farida had been gravely ill. On days when she felt better there was hope of recovery, but then after a few days it seemed she would be gone any second. I was thousands of kilometres away from her living on the west coast in Vancouver; she was in Toronto. She was being well looked after in her nursing home, but the feeling of not being with her everyday made me very uneasy.
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Should I arrange for her to be moved to Vancouver? But, then, would she be able to handle a new home in the condition she was in? All these questions bothered my mind everyday while she courageously struggled to live on and cope with her health problems, which were many, due to a weak heart. Every living thing has an instinct to survive. Human beings are blessed with minds to distinguish between right and wrong, they have a heart and they have a soul. For Farida, the remembrance of Mawlana Hazar Imam’s Farman, “whether you are young or old, every day is a day that must be lived, and during that day you must fulfill your responsibilities to the best of your ability” (1976, Mumbai, India) became Farida’s motto to live to the best of her ability. Honestly, when the co-author of this piece and our family friend, Malik, visited Farida in Toronto before his departure for Calgary, he was amazed to see her in high spirits as well as be a witness to her brilliant mind and remarkable memory. When it seemed that she wasn’t listening, because her eyes were closed, she was in fact FULLY alert! She would often correct me, narrate an incident or add detail to a story that I was telling about her, and respond with an astonishing feedback. Yes, that was my beloved sister Farida, who made us cheerful when we felt sad. She was bright as well as intellectually stimulating.
I consider myself truly lucky that during the past several months I was able to visit her multiple times and spend quality time with her during each of my visit. The last visit was in April when she died a few days after the Ismaili Centre Headquarters Mukhisaheb and Kamadiasaheb along with their female counterparts — their spouses — Mukhianisaheba and Kamadianisaheba came to visit Farida at the North York General Hospital to give her their blessings. It was a moment that truly uplifted me, but at the same time some kind of an indicator to me that Farida was probably in her final days. Their timing to visit Farida and bless her was perfect.
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Farida had been admitted to the hospital at the beginning of April because of water retention. Her organs had started to fail and the heart had been weak for several years. At the hospital, she underwent a procedure to drain out fluid from her body. While this gave me signs of hope, the recovery was not to be. Finally, she was transferred to the North York Senior Health Centre Palliative Care, and she finally succumbed on April 29, shortly after the Ismaili leadership’s blessed visit.
Her funeral ceremony took place at Scarborough Jamatkhana on May 3, 2022. The samar and zyarat (ceremonies and prayers for the departed soul) were held later on the same day at the Headquarters Jamatkhana at the Ismaili Centre Toronto.
My dearest sister Farida was born on November 20, 1943 in Mityana, a small town located about 70 kilometres west of Uganda’s capital, Kampala. She did her primary education at the Aga Khan School in Mityana and then moved to Kampala for her secondary education at the Old Kampala Government School. She then joined our sister, Laila, in London to qualify as a hairdresser. She migrated to Canada in the 1970’s, and made Toronto her home.
As a qualified hairdresser, she worked in the field for several years, but was unable to continue with hairdressing on a permanent basis because she underwent three open heart surgeries to replace her heart valves. With her worsening health, she then decided to work as a secretary and also took training to pursue a career in computing. Unfortunately her weakened heart, that was also supported by a pacemaker, made it impossible for her to lead a normal professional life as much as she wanted to. However, Farida continued to remain active in her life through her interest and passion for crocheting and knitting. She made and donated baby outfits and shawls to local hospitals and Ismaili Jamatkhanas so that they would be distributed to young parents. She loved to make “prayer beads” (tasbihs) and supplied them to Ismaili children and youth attending Baitul-Ilm classes as well as to Ismaili community members across Canada. She also arranged to send some tasbihs to Ismailis in Tajikistan.
Farida was a multi-talented individual, full of life and vigour. She loved art and painting. She was also a true lover of nature, and got immense happiness and pleasure out of gardening and growing plants in her apartment. When she was finally moved to the Seniors’ Health Centre in October 2019, her social worker set up a garden on the rooftop of the building for Farida to continue with her hobby. She received excellent care at the Seniors’ Health Centre, a hub of innovative care facilities for the elderly provided by the North York General Hospital.
However, there was one person who had come into her life as an angel when she was still living in her apartment. She is Tarina Barter. Tarina continued visiting her at the Seniors’ Health Centre on a regular basis. She became a constant companion to Farida, spending many hours with her and often took Farida out for coffee and meals whenever Covid-19 protocols permitted. My sister’s favourite dish was the famous Swiss Chalet chicken that came with fries and a delicious bowl of gravy! Tarina’s constant updates on Farida provided me with much needed comfort. It was a blessing for the family that Tarina had appeared in our lives at such a critical and crucial moment, relieving us of constantly worrying about Farida’s health and condition. We cannot thank Tarina enough for her unconditional love, care and affection for Farida for 4 continuous years. Her final visit to Farida was on April 27, two days before Farida passed away (see photo, below).
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Farida was a very kind and compassionate person. Her spirituality, faith and devotion to Mawlana Hazar Imam was exemplary, and set an example to all in her family to remain hopeful and courageous, whatever one’s circumstances.
In Farida’s passing, we have lost a great family member and we pray for her soul to Rest in Eternal Peace. Ameen.
As I complete this short tribute to my beloved sister Farida, I want to mention that our dad, Esmail Dhanani, and mom, Shirin Dhanani, and older brothers Noorali and Ramzan as well as older sisters Dolat Wadhwani, Roshan Lakhani and Zareen Dhamani have all passed away. May their souls also Rest In Eternal Peace. Ameen.
Farida is survived by her daughter Fauzia Moorani and siblings Laila Pirani and of course myself, Rashida Tejani. I also take this opportunity to mention that my older brother Noorali Dhanani (popularly known as Noora of Sapra Studio) was one of the photographers selected to take pictures of Mawlana Shah Karim Hazar Imam when he recited the Eid ul-Fitr Namaz in Nairobi at the age of 7. Noora also travelled as a photographer with Mawlana Sultan Mahomed Shah on one of his trips by ship from Dar es Salaam to Zanzibar. I myself was fortunate to have a photo taken with Mata Salamat, Om Habibeh Aga Khan, in Karachi during Mawlana Hazar Imam’s Silver Jubilee visit in March 1983.
For the countless blessings that my family has received of serving the Imam-of-the-Time throughout our lives, we submit our humble shukhrana to Mawlana Hazar Imam.
While I was able to see my beloved sister before she passed away and was present for her funeral in Toronto, my daughter Farah could not travel with me and see her beloved aunt. The least she could do was to pen a tribute poem to her beloved Farida aunty that follows below. As readers may be aware, Farah has contributed beautiful poems and stories to this website.
Finally, I ask all readers to once again join with me in praying for the eternal peace of the soul of my beloved sister Farida, who endured her difficulties gracefully and courageously with the continuous blessings of Mawlana Hazar Imam that each of us, as his murids, are bestowed with every second, and every single day of our precious lives.
“Life”, as Mawlana Sultan Mahomed Shah wrote in his Memoirs, “is a great and noble calling, not a mean and grovelling thing to be shuffled through as best as we can but a lofty and exalted destiny.” Farida lived by the tenets of her Ismaili Muslim faith, and has returned to the abode of heavenly peace. “Surely we belong to God and to Him we return” — Holy Qur’an, 2:156.
In Memory of Our Dearest Farida Hassam
By FARAH TEJANI
Letting you go was not easy,
Very painful and difficult to endure…
However, watching you suffer with such immense pain,
Was even harder for us to bear.
You were a pillar of strength and dignity,
Even through trials and tribulations,
Like a mountain piercing the sky,
Nothing would shake you…
Nothing could break you.
You were never one to complain,
You faced every battle for your life,
Using your faith,
And your strong desire to live,
And your love for your family and friends.
While we watched on,
Praying for the best outcome.
You would always assure us,
“I am in God’s hands.”
And against all odds
You would always prevail.
Not many could go through,
What you did…
Your faith was tested time and again,
But you never let go of Mawla’s Hands.
Your beauty and sophistication
And your Pure heart,
And unconditional compassion,
Touched all of us, who knew you…
And even those of us who didn’t,
But wanted to.
You always kept busy with hobbies and interests,
You’d even sew some of your own outfits,
Always vibrant colors and flowers so real
You could almost smell them.
You also enjoyed making
Hundreds and hundreds of prayer beads,
That were then Blessed and given out.
You were the prettiest flower,
Who enjoyed growing a garden of sunflowers and tulips,
And then painting them so vividly
Your palette bursting with hues.
And then, just when we thought the worst was over,
You would be hit by another serious health crisis.
But you would be so brave and assure us,
“What doesn’t kill you, Makes you stronger.”
And stronger she was.
But this time, sadly, was your time to go,
But we know that we can be assured,
We know in our hearts,
That you will always be watching from Above.
Date posted: May 29, 2022.
We invite you to submit your condolences and tributes to Farida Hassam in the comments box below or by clicking on LEAVE A COMMENT.
About the writers: Farah Tejani is a creative writer based in Vancouver. She has become a regular contributor of poems and stories to this website, and readers are invited to click HERE for a summary of her beautiful writings. Her incredible mother, Rashida, now retired, lives in Richmond, BC, and has encouraged her daughter in all her literary pursuits over the past 30 years. Both mother and daughter continue to inspire each other as they go through life’s challenges. Malik Merchant, co-author with Rashida to the tribute to Farida, is the founding publisher and editor of Simerg (2009) and its two sister blogs, Barakah (2017) and Simergphotos (2012).
Simerg invites Ismaili families to submit obituaries and tributes to deceased members of their families, whether they passed away recently or in the past. Please review PASSINGS on how to prepare and submit your tribute.
Before departing this website please take a moment to review Simerg’s Table of Contents for links to hundreds of thought provoking pieces on a vast array of subjects including faith and culture, history and philosophy, and arts and letters to name a few. Also visit Simerg’s sister websites Barakah, dedicated to His Highness the Aga Khan, and Simergphotos. Simerg’s editor Malik may be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org
May her soul rest in eternal peace and strength for the family.
Farah is a gifted writer ✍️ 👌
Absolutely beautiful tribute. Farida was well loved, and is missed.
A Very loving tribute.
Farida’s kind and loving spirit was the first thing anyone could notice. I am forever grateful to have shared wonderful memories with this beautiful soul. To my dear Farida, may you rest in internal peace.
Thank you Rashida for this heartwarming tribute. May you and the family continue to have the strength and courage during this time. Farida was loved by all very much.
May her soul rest in eternal peace, Ameen.
May her beautiful soul rest in eternal peace.
Beautiful tribute. My deepest condolences to the family.
What a beautiful tribute to Farida. It made me tear up thinking of how special she was and how much I miss her. I only have comfort in knowing she is no longer uncomfortable.
To encounter beautiful souls in one’s life is a blessing. And I have been so blessed in meeting and knowing Farida. Thank you dear sweet Farida. May you rest in eternal peace. Ameen.
Rashida and Farah, both of you have penned a fitting tribute. May Mowla protect and guide you always. Ameen.
What a beautiful and loving tribute!
Thanks so much for including me. I loved her lots and I will treasure this.
A very beautiful tribute Rashida. ❤️
Yes 🙌 God bless her soul and gives you the strength for your loss 💞💞❤️
I’m so sorry about your sister Rashi 😦
I’m here for you 🙂
Lots of hugs and love. Rest in peace. Ameen
May Allah rest her soul in eternal peace, Amen
May Farida’s soul rest in eternal peace, Ameen.
Hi dear Rashida 🤗
Thank you so much for sharing that beautiful tribute to the sweet Farida 👏🌹😢
A heartfelt tribute to your beloved sister nd aunt.
May Farida’s soul rest in peace. OHM SHANTI OHM.
May Farida’s soul rest in eternal peace. Ameen.
What an awesome tribute, Rashida!
Now I know where Farah gets her creative talent from. You are both
May Mowla always be with both of you on your journey forward. 🙏
May the departed soul rest in eternal peace Ameen
I am very sorry to hear this. May Mawla grant courage to family.
Farida, Very kind gentle and compassionate person. Have known her for years. Definitely will be missed. But she is in a better place. Rest in Peace, my friend.
Thank you for sharing a beautifully written tribute.
Ya Ali Madad Rashida
A very lovely and fitting write up. We think about Faridabai with the fondest of memories; in nursing home with maa in listening to ginans, making tasbihs, and uplifting maa’s mood. She was very inspiring companion to lots of residence in the nursing home. We always meet a person for a reason, mission and vision. She was a very blessed soul.
Wow! Farah what a wonderful tribute. Farah you are a very bright intelligent writer. You touched our hearts with your beautiful poems. Thank you very much indeed for sharing. God bless you all.
We pray for her soul to rest in eternal peace. Ameen. Take care.
Shamim n Nurali.
Farida was my best friend for many years. and she had such a beautiful heart. My deepest condolences to all family members. Mowla rest her soul in external peace, Amen.
Dear Rashida and Farah,
Sending your family my deepest condolences and prayers for the soul of your beautiful sister to rest in eternal peace. Ameen.
Lovely and fitting tribute to Faridabai. I think of her with the fondest of memories. She is now onto the soul’s next adventure. May she find eternal Peace!!
Farida Aunty was a gentle and blessed soul. She left us with many lessons
Thank you Rashida Aunty and Farah for your gift of expression ❤️
Such a wonderful tribute. Farah you always touch my heart with your beautiful poems.
Thank you Rashida and Farah. May Farida’s soul rest in eternal peace. Ameen
Rest In Peace Aameen
May her soul rest in eternal peace. Amen 🙏🙏
May Allah swt forgive her mistakes and grant her soul eternal peace. From Allah swt we come and unto Him is the final return. Thank you Rashida and Farah for the tribute to the deceased soul.
We also pray to Allah swt to grant sabar to the family to withstand the loss of the departed soul. Ameen
Farida and John Kanjee
What a beautiful soul Farida was and a pillar of hope everywhere she went. We will miss her dearly. May her soul rest in eternal peace. Ameen
Dear Rashida and Farah,
May Farida’s soul rest in eternal peace and strength
to you and the family.
A beautiful message for an aunt and a sister.
Thank you so much for sharing your loving journey with your amazing sister, May her soul rest in eternal peace.
Farah as always you captured all the emotions so well, thank you:)
What a lovely tribute for a sister. Even though I have never met Farida, she seems like a beautiful soul who has left an inspirational legacy for all of us out here. May her soul rest in eternal peace and may her family find the courage to bear this loss.
A touching tribute for a dear sister and aunt. I remember meeting Farida years back. We pray for her soul to rest in eternal peace.
May almighty pardon her mistakes and bless her soul to rest in eternal peace amen
May her beautiful soul rest in eternal peace at her final abode embraced by His light and Noor as she is in Mowla’s hands now.
Dear Rashida and Farah,
Deepest condolences on your loss.
I pray for Farida’s Amar Shanti, Amen. God Bless you all.
Ya Ali Madad
May Farida’s soul rest in eternal peace and Mowla give family courage to bear this great loss. Ameen
Farida was a wonderful soul. I had the pleasure of having known her when she was in Vancouver. May her soul rest in eternal peace.
May you have the strength to bear this loss and start healing. Amen.
May Allah bless her soul in eternal peace. She may have left this world but not our hearts.
May her soul rest in eternal peace.
Rashida, this is an amazing write up of your beloved sister.
We never forget our childhood days, for ever playful, and never thinking that the end will eventually come, as it does to all beings.
We knew your entire family, as we grew up in Mityana.
And I for one pray that may her soul rest in eternal peace.
Only the good die young. We will miss you. Rest In Peace.
Thank you Rashida ji, you wrote beautifully about your beautiful sister Farida. May her soul Rest In Peace and our deep condolences to you and your family. Aameen.